By: Sadguru Rameshji
Six steps towards family harmony
Without family harmony, one cannot
be genuinely in life, cannot be successfully and cannot live a life that is
worth living. Complete family harmony is the key to happiness, prosperity and success .Family harmony means that there is an atmosphere of absolute peace, relaxation,
unconditional love, fearlessness, understanding ( and not misunderstanding) freedom of expression and longing for each other
within the family.
Although the responsibility for
creating such harmony lies on every
member of the family but the initiative is expected from the elders of the
family. And in case they fail to
take this initiative then the responsibility falls on the younger
generation. It is imperative that parents be more like friends to their
children rather than always being parents. They should neither talk negative
nor abuse or hurt their feelings a depressed feelings often impede the progress
of children. Conversations between parents and children should not always be
teaching conversations but learning conversations as well. Daughters are to be
taken care of with more love, affection and maturity. They are more emotional
and fragile in nature in comparison to the male child. Though they are expected
to live with their husbands separately after marriage, it is said that a son is
a son till he gets a wife, but a daughter remains a daughter throughout her life.
This six points (A,B,C,D,E,F) formula can works wonders for complete family
harmony
>ACCEPTANCE: Accept every family member as they
are without any complaint or comparison every soul who comes to a family comes with a
distinct attitude, behavior, knowledge, karma, experience etc. comparison with
another soul is neither appropriate nor desirable.
>BE A CHILD and not
a grown up : A child Is an
egoless state, is happy without any reason, forgets quarrels and becomes
friends in no time, does not carry any impressions ( good or bad) in his/her
mind and is always in a playful and relaxed state of mind.
>CONFLICT AVOIDANCE
: Every family member should try to
avoid conflicts, frictions and quarrels. A winner in a quarrel or argument is
actually a loser because even if one wins an arguments one loses the harmony of
relationship.
>DIL ( HEART) and not DIMAAG ( MIND) : Heart is always in a mode of compassion ,love
and giving, but head is full of jealousy , hatred, ego, revenge, etc, so never
allow your head to rule over your heart. Different between heart and head is
that the heart say’s “ let me apologize” but head would say “ let them apologize
first”
>EXPECT LESS :
expectation is the major cause for anger , irritation, frustration, disappointment and depression.
Reduce expectatiions from family members and be happy all the time.
